Kind of a weird title, I know, but I just read Dominee’s post about beginning to love herself and one of the things she talks about is how messy her home was before.
My apartment looked like something out of Hoarders.
Maybe not as bad but it was pretty close. Dirty dishes in the sink that had been there for months and months. Used paper plates thrown haphazardly on the floor. Stains on the carpet and furniture because when something spilled I didn’t care enough to clean it up. Clothes everywhere, piles of empty pizza boxes, and bags of trash that I didn’t care enough to take out to the dumpster. Anyone looking at that scene would just think how lazy and sloppy I was.
I can completely relate.
At some times, my home was that bad.
It’s not now, but it’s not an organized, serene haven, either.
There’s too much stuff in not enough space, and things shoved into open boxes and shelves with little organization.
It’s not for lack of trying.
C and I are both good at organizing small bits at a time.
But we are also both bad at maintaining the organization.
Last week, we went through one day where we pulled stuff out of the bathroom cabinets and linen closet to organize the bathroom.
We finally purged a lot of stuff we’ve been meaning to go through for ages. We ended up getting rid of more than 2 large garbage bags of stuff, plus have a pile to go to storage.
After that, for the last three days, I’ve been starting at my living room, hating the arrangement.
I’ve always hated the arrangement here.
But there’s so much stuff on the shelves that it’s really a pain to move anything.
Tonight, the frustration peaked and I’ve started moving stuff.
I think it’s going to take a few days to go through the whole thing.
I mentioned before that I have been able to keep a clean, organized home at times in the past:
When I look back on my past, the times my home has been cleanest and I’ve done better at routine things are the times I’ve lived completely alone, or for a brief period when C was tiny after I kicked Deadbeat Roommate out.
Considering that C is rarely home now and will be off to college soon enough, I should be able to do this again, now. Right now, things are clean. There’s only today’s dishes in the sink, and C just emptied the dishwasher of clean stuff so I’ll be getting them done tonight. The garbage is taken out regularly. There’s no food laying around.
But it is messy/cluttered.
Part of my frustration is that when I live alone, all the mess is mine, and things remain where I leave them. And now, while C is rarely home, her messes still are.
She’s capable of cleaning and organizing. In fact, she does a fabulous job when she does it. But getting her to do it is difficult.
I WANT a more serene home.
But I also want my things close at hand all the time.
Those two things seem to be at odds with each other.
A larger place, once I can afford it, will help.
But there’s still a lot of stuff that needs to be gotten rid of completely.
And that is overwhelming.
My storage unit is 10x10x10 and filled to the rafters.
I know a lot of the stuff that’s in there, but I can never find it when I go looking.
So, for the next few days, I’ll be seriously looking at stuff and hopefully purging as I move things around, because dammit, I deserve a comfortable place to live in.
I thought about taking some “before” pictures, but I’m just not that brave.