In this one forum I’m on regularly, there’s currently a discussion going on about mental illness.
One person feels s/he can no longer be friends with someone who has stopped taking medication.
I can actually understand that part.
The medication changes a person’s personality on some levels.
When I look at my life, I currently have very few friends in my life that knew me before I was medicated. That is my fault. I let most of those old friendships fall away.
During the discussion, other people have brought up moments of drama and crises that people in their lives have caused or lived through. One in particular mentioned that she had a family member with bipolar, and she will no longer deal with someone who admits they have the disease – whether or not they are medicated – because of all the drama.
People with problems create drama in their lives. I’m sure you’ve seen it. I’ve seen it, in others and in myself.
No one likes to be pulled into someone else’s drama.
Except. . . . what is life if not dramatic?
If your life doesn’t have a little drama in it, what are you doing? How do you spend your time to avoid all drama?
Pets cause drama, making changes to your life causes drama, being married or being a parent has it’s own drama, getting ahead is dramatic, LOVE is dramatic, EVERYTHING in life has drama.
So, when someone says, “I can’t deal with the X’s drama any more,” what they mean is, “X never learns from his/her mistakes,” or, “X’s stuff is too exhausting to deal with,” or, “X’s problems end up hurting me.”
All of these are legitimate reasons to minimize contact with someone – you have to protect your own mental health.
But I guess the term “drama” used in this way annoys me, much the same way people calling things “bipolar” or “schizophrenic” because they are mercurial. Or the latest one with every armchair shrink diagnosing people as having Asperger’s. *eyeroll* And yes, I know I’ve been guilty of that.
It’s true that I tend to create crises, over and over.
I know it, and I’m working on it.
But it seems as though I perform better in a crisis, at least I get much more done. I don’t know why, and I don’t like it. It is very stressful, I don’t like it and a large part of what I’ve been working on this year has been trying to stop doing this.
I haven’t been completely successful, but I think I’m making some progress.
It’s also true that being my friend can be exhausting.
I know it.
That’s one reason I withdraw during hard times. I don’t WANT to draw everyone else into the pit with me.
What’s my point today?
I don’t know.
I guess I’m beating a dead drum of wanting people to be precise when they speak. Or to be more understanding of mental illness. Or something.
I’m tired of my own drama, too, and want it to end. Maybe the friend that was referenced above feels the same way?