Motivation and Action

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"Very Personal Ads"

Have you visited The Fluent Self?
I love Havi. I can’t handle reading her every day, but when I’m in the mood for extreme silliness and motivation, I go straight to her site.
I want to learn Shiva Nata, but I can’t afford the basic learning package.
Someone was going to pay for me to see her when she came to Sacramento a few weeks ago, but I was too late signing up and the class was full.
So, I used some of the Holiday money I received to finally download the Monster Manual & Coloring Book.
Monsters! Of DOOOOM!
C and I have been having fun coloring monsters. And since it’s an ebook, we can print it out again and again and color them differently. Maybe I’ll scan and post a few of my monsters in the coming weeks. Anyway, another thing that Havi does is Very Personal Ads.
Every week, she writes an “ad” for something that she wants in her life. A house, a Playground for her business, more time to live her life, success for her business projects, anything that she feels she needs in her life.
She hates the word “manifest” but to me, this feels like basics of Magick and/or the New Age idea of Manifestation. In order to craft a good spell, you need to be able to articulate exactly what you want. And then you have to release your emotional attachment to it. It’s also the basis for a lot of New Age stuff (what is now apparently being called Airy Fairy Woo Woo Hippy Crap). I’m used to keeping these things private, though, not sticking them out there for the whole world to see. 
What I like about Havi’s Very Personal Ads is that not only does she list her goals, she lists the mundane steps she needs to take to make them come true. She calls this “how this could happen.”
She does these every week.
I’m not good at making firm goals or plans. This is one of the things I’m really working on.
I don’t think I can commit to doing goals once a week. I’m not good at even making them once a year.
But maybe I can do it once a month.
This post is already getting long, but I’m going to list a few here now.
  • Sufficient income to pay my bills and start accumulating some savings. I have a number in mind, but I’m a little reluctant to post that.
  • At least half of that income coming from my business.
  • I need to “up my game” with regards to my business. I missed out on IttyBiz’s last big sale, and now her store is closed. Again, I didn’t have the money to invest in tools that might help my business. Likewise, I can’t afford to invest in Dave Navarro’s (not the music guy) big sale before everything costs waaaaay too much. I’m really tired of not being able to take advantage of tools that could help me (I also couldn’t afford Ramit Sethi’s Earn 1K). I’m tired of that. But I CAN take advantage of notes I took during Ramit’s free webinars, and notes I’ve been making off of Naomi Dunford’s and Dave Navarro’s Failproof Your Business series. And I’ve downloaded Dave’s free content and I’ve started working on the 4 free workbooks he’s got. Anyway, I’m taking small steps here.
  •  By the end of January, I want to have my tutoring website revamped, at least one video made, finish the Study Skills ebook and have it ready for sale.
  • I want a list of at least 2000 people. That may seem small to some people, but since I have less than 20 people following on FeedBurner, 2000 seems like a lot to me.
Is this doable in a month? I’m only working 8 hours at my day job, doing my normal tutoring, and classes start again next week. 
Is this too much? 
I should have at least a couple of hours every weekday to work on this. Is that enough?

What motivates you?

I have a day job. It’s a basic office job.

When I first got this job, I was overjoyed because I’d been unemployed so long, and now I could start taking steps to support us again.

I hadn’t actually done an office job before. I’d been a technician for a long time.

But I figured I had general office skills, I might as well try to use them.


I am so glad that I told the Navy recruiter that I did not want to be a paper-pusher when I joined the military. I wasn’t crazy about being a tech, but being an office monkey is soooo much worse.

That said, though, I’ve learned a lot about myself in this position.

1. I’m not motivated by money. Seriously. Once I have a baseline salary, can make a budget, and keep a roof over my head and food on the table, more money does not motivate me.

I’m not going to work harder for a $10 bonus, or probably even a $100 bonus. This means that any sales career is probably out for me.

And I’m not the only one. There’s even been a study about this.

So what does motivate me? As far as I’ve been able to figure out, by analyzing my behavior at this job, Helping People.

I will bend over backwards if I think I’m giving someone the help they need to accomplish something or taking tasks off their back so that they can do something else.

I’m all about the Helping.

I want to Feel Useful, to make someones day easier, to impart some wisdom, to give someone what they need.

When I make an offer to my Boss to take on x task, it isn’t because I want more money or work. It’s because I can see she’s overwhelmed with her duties, and I ACHE to HELP. When she rejects that offer, I’m CRUSHED. When she’s cold or confrontational about rejecting it, I’m beyond crushed, I’m stunned.

Before this job, I never really knew this about myself.

2. I’m all about the NEW.

I’ve always known that I learn things quickly; I’ve used it on my resume as my biggest selling point.

But I never knew how much I’d resent continuing to repeat a task after I’d learned it.

As a tech, that was my life. There was always a new thing to learn, always a new task to accomplish, a new technology to learn, a new class to go to, new equipment, etc. Even in a production environment, I’d tune 10 widgets, and then have a set of whatsits to do, and whosits to learn. (Widgets, whatsis, whosits are all technical terms, obviously.)

In an office environment, you learn the new thing, and then keep repeating it, and keep repeating it. And keep repeating it. And then you become the Person Who Does That Thing, which means you have to KEEP REPEATING IT.

Oh, dear gods, kill me now!

Give me something NEW, please! Here, I can teach That Thing to someone else, let me learn SOMETHING NEW.

3. This one goes hand in hand with #2: I want to have something to do with training.

My second job, working at McD’s in the mall back home (which doesn’t even exist anymore) as a teenager, I made myself an expert in the arena of training. At almost every duty station in the Navy, I had something to do with training. I kept training records, I wrote training lectures, I trained the new people, I scheduled training, I taught CPR classes.

I love training.

All of which lead me to conclude that I really am cut out to be a Teacher. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’m a archetypal Teacher/Mentor.

I want to learn new things and then convey what I’ve learned to others. I want to get people excited to learn something new. I want every day to have a different challenge.

I mean there’s comfort in routine. I like getting up at the same time every day and leaving the house at the same time every day, and going to bed at a similar time most nights, and such. But I want the tasks that I’m doing to change, and the people I’m interacting with to change, and I want to HELP people or at feel like I’m helping.